Why People Suck. The struggles of decision making with ADHD

People suck—including you and me. This is because Most of our lives have been spent making bad decisions and actions based on our darkest impulses and emotions.

Childhood: Acting on Impulse

When we’re kids, almost every decision we make is based on how we feel in the moment. Since our emotions haven’t fully developed and we don’t have much life experience, we give in to desires and impulses. That’s why kids throw tantrums, rage, or lash out at anything that causes even the smallest discomfort.

Adulthood: Kids in Grown-Up Bodies

As adults, we’re basically just those same kids cosplaying as grown-ups. The difference is that now we’re playing by society’s rules, without anyone to take care of us. That means our actions carry real consequences.

We know what’s right and wrong—morally and legally.
And yet, we still make terrible decisions. Why? Because most of the time, it’s still our inner child running the show. Only now, that child has discovered new addictions and desires to keep feeding their desires and hunger.

Why We Still Make Bad Choices

If we can tell the difference between right and wrong, and if we know what’s best for our well-being, why do we keep chasing instant gratification? Because we were never really taught—or trained—to strengthen our rational persona.

Rationality: The hidden dragon

Being rational might sound boring, stiff, or even lame, but it’s something we all carry inside. The problem is, for most of us, it’s underdeveloped and weak. To be rational, you have to go through discipline, discomfort, and pain. Rationality is like the king, queen (or whatever pronouns you vibe with) of our inner personas. It’s the ultimate version of us that uses reasoning and logic to instantly shut down emotional impulses and make the smartest decisions for survival, growth, and opportunity. But the downside: if rationality runs unchecked, you end up a paranoid, self-absorbed asshole—someone safe, but cold and boring, all for the sake of preserving your well-being and quality of life.

That’s why your rational self has to work alongside other personas that make up your ego—wisdom, confidence, grit, and joy. Together, they help you make decisions that consider both your mind and your feelings.

The Balance of Power

Think of it like this:

• Rationality has a decision-making power of 5.

• Joy, confidence, wisdom, and grit each have a power of 2.

If rationality allows these other personas to add their influence, but doesn’t let them overpower it just like a king at the round table making a strategic plan, the king should take advice from its generals but ultimately makes the decision for the betterment of the kingdom. Compromise with decisions and choices with balance.

ADHD
Most people understand the importance of rationality. But for those of us with ADHD, our rational king—or queen—often gets overthrown or captured. That leaves our other personas in charge of the kingdom, making decisions in their place. Sometimes we crown joy as ruler, chasing instant gratification with overconfidence. Other times, our desires, cravings, and impulses invade and take control. The result is a chaotic kingdom, where rationality struggles to hold the throne.

The Takeaway

In short, we must start developing our rational reasoning to get what we want and survive life. But in order to not be a person of suck, our rational reasoning has to be in a position of strength—strong enough to compromise with our feelings and emotions. but dont let your other personas and negativity overthrow your rational king.